tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51002594023364215.post6414246740393841316..comments2016-07-18T21:08:34.084-07:00Comments on Susu's Meanderings: The Thing I'm Letting Go Today!SilvermoonWandererhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09571427666144074263noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51002594023364215.post-22528754987150589412011-04-26T22:51:30.028-07:002011-04-26T22:51:30.028-07:00As a child I was terrified. I told my parents a w...As a child I was terrified. I told my parents a while ago...they believed me. Yes, I've already been in therapy and I believe will go again! It really helps. Thanks for whomever wrote about the fact that the abuser is over it the minute it happens. I know that I'm the one still caught up in it and don't want it to control me anymore. Kinda why I needed to tell who it was! It's the only power I HAVE. To take away his shining image in what's left of the people who knew him. I wanted to put a tiny chink in his metal so to speak! In doing so I can begin the journey back to myself! Thank you all! Namaste!SilvermoonWandererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09571427666144074263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51002594023364215.post-28811958563838997222011-04-26T14:03:28.239-07:002011-04-26T14:03:28.239-07:00Time to move on. Are you sure you don't keep p...Time to move on. Are you sure you don't keep punishing yurself for something you had no control over and therefore keep re-hashing this terrible time in your life. YOUR WERE THE VICTIM. You can choose to remove it from conscious memory. Therapy might help do this. <br />Does your family not believe this? Your Parents?<br />Did you tell anyone? were you too scared?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51002594023364215.post-11465490904383024712011-04-26T06:23:19.974-07:002011-04-26T06:23:19.974-07:00Saddened to read this, but what courage to write t...Saddened to read this, but what courage to write this! Peace to you, Susan. Peace and love always...Glennnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51002594023364215.post-48191553125466044252011-04-26T05:45:40.163-07:002011-04-26T05:45:40.163-07:00Wow Susan.....I hope you can truly let this go and...Wow Susan.....I hope you can truly let this go and not let it consume you.....I read a book once by Carolyn Myss....I think that's how you spell her name......she wrote about what happens to us when we hold on to old hates especially, and what she said helped me so much to let go of the hate I felt toward a man who physically and emotionally abused me. She wrote to think about the loss of control we felt in our lives during the times of pain from this other person. Think how helpless and horrible we felt because we felt there was so little we could do. Then life happened and either we got out of the situation or that person moved away...whatever it was...they were no longer a physical presence in our lives....BUT...we thought about them every single day. The hatred bound us as surely as if they had never let go of our hand. She wrote that we should think about that other person...about where THEY are at right now...your grandfather is dead...my old boyfriend moved on to another life and I have no idea what he is doing. But one thing that is SURE...is that neither of them is thinking about US. Yet....there I was ...thinking about that creep every day...hating him and wishing him dead......so in reality...he was still controlling me. What I had longed for so much.. ....to escape....I had not done...but he was not the one holding me now....I was keeping myself within his grasp. HE....didn't spend one second...at any given time when I would sit and feel that hatred in my gut and he would consume my thoughts..it was highly likely he was kicking back with friends having a good time and laughing at somebody's jokes. While I sat and stewed.....years and years later.<br /><br />Carolyn wrote about a mental picture we could form...imagine we have invisible cords that link us forever to those we can't forgive....they can't cut the cords because they don't even know they are there. WE have to cut the cord....<br /><br />anyhoo...reading this hit me like a lightning bolt between my eyes ....peace to you.....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-51002594023364215.post-22799560116510604842011-04-25T13:14:18.801-07:002011-04-25T13:14:18.801-07:00the sad thing is that you felt you needed to live ...the sad thing is that you felt you needed to live with this. Letting go is the strongest move you can make!<br />love HeidiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com